This week I completed a hard cycling interval session.
The kind where your legs start burning long before the session ends, your lungs protest almost immediately, and somewhere around halfway through you begin questioning your own judgment. It was exactly the sort of session that reminds you fitness is not built through comfort and that sometimes the body needs to be pushed into places it would not voluntarily choose for itself.
The following morning, I checked the usual numbers.
Resting heart rate, training load, fitness markers and recovery.
The numbers were all good… and yet what struck me was that none of those numbers were the part I had actually enjoyed.
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That is not to say they are unimportant, because they are important. Metrics help us understand whether training is working, whether recovery is adequate, whether health is moving in the right direction or quietly drifting the other way. They give shape to progress and help turn guesswork into something much more useful.
But only one side of health and fitness is ever truly experienced in the moment we are doing it. The other side is just a measurement.
That distinction has become more interesting to me over time, as it seems to me, two sides to every health and fitness journey.
There is the measurable side and there is the memorable side.
The measurable side is easy to identify. VO₂ max, strength levels, body composition, resting heart rate, blood markers, recovery scores, fitness age. These things matter, sometimes a great deal. They tell us whether we are becoming fitter, stronger, healthier, more resilient and more capable. In that sense, they are very useful signals.
But they are still signals, they are not the reason to keep on training.
No one reaches the end of life wishing they had achieved a slightly lower resting heart rate for its own sake. No one looks back with deep gratitude that their training load graph peaked beautifully in the third quarter of a particular year. Metrics matter, their value is real, but it is, in my opinion, secondary.
For years, I thought fitness was the goal.
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Like many people, I became fascinated by the numbers. I wanted to become fitter, stronger, leaner and healthier and to a certain extent that is exactly what happened. The metrics improved and capacity improved. I became more aware of how my body adapts when given the right conditions and enough consistency.
But over time I noticed the better the numbers became, the less interested I was in the numbers themselves.
Instead, I became more interested in what those numbers allowed me to do and that changed the whole frame.
The purpose of strength training is not really strength, it is capability. The purpose of improving your VO₂ max is not really improving your VO₂ max, it is expanding your capacity for life.
The purpose of health is not health in isolation, the purpose of health is freedom.
Freedom to explore, to say yes, to remain independent, to take on physical experiences without your body immediately becoming the limiting factor. Freedom to live with more confidence in what your body can handle, rather than organising life around what it no longer can.
That, to me, is where the emotional value of fitness actually lives. Not in the spreadsheet, but in the life it supports.
That is why I have become less interested in the question, “How fit can I become?” and more interested in the question, “What can my fitness allow me to continue to experience… as I age?”
It sounds like a subtle difference, but it changes everything.
Because fitness stops being the destination and becomes the vehicle. Health stops being a score to optimise and becomes an enabler of life. The goal is no longer optimisation for its own sake, the goal is creating a life that is richer, more adventurous, more capable and more fulfilling because your health is doing its job in the background.
That is a much more useful and dare I say, healthy relationship, with health.
It also protects people from one of the easier traps in modern fitness culture, which is confusing the measurement with the meaning. We now track sleep, recovery, output, resting heart rate, body fat, pace, strain, load and readiness and all of that can be helpful. But if we are not careful, we can end up serving the metric rather than remembering what the metric is there to support.
At Better Life, we talk a great deal about science. We talk about sleep, walking, strength training, recovery, longevity, stress reduction and a better daily structure. All of these things matter because they help men feel better, perform better and live better.
But only because they increase the ability to experience life more fully.
That is the part really worth noting.
The metric matters, but the life it enables matters more.
One helps create the other, and that is worth remembering the next time you are tempted to confuse the number with the reason for measuring it in the first place.
Because the goal is not simply to build a better VO₂ max.
The goal is to build a better life.
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Written watching the useful metrics and a firm belief that the numbers are there to serve the life, not replace it.